My mil passed away this morning.
My husband and his dad were there bedside her last hours and minutes, and watched her last breath. This is a tough time, but I still see it as a gift that they were able to have this last month and the final moments this morning. Mil passed away at home, as were her wishes. And there were some other circumstances my husband hoped for that were realized when this day came. Thank you so much for your prayers, emails & support! I'm convinced all of the support I received helped us get thru this as gracefully as possible. I'm incredibly sad for all of the things that mil & I talked about, but didn't get to do together. I'm especially sad that she won't see Mini G grow up and Mini won't get to spend time with her. I do have lots of pictures of the two of them together in the few times she saw her. And I have mil on video, reading a few stories to Mini. I treasured them when she recorded them and of course they mean so much more now.
The business of burial begins. There won't be a traditional funeral. I'm not sure if they're doing a memorial later. I'll find out this weekend. With no funeral to organize, G Money wants to come home tomorrow. I told him he has to see his dad thru the paperwork process for cremation, etc... Believe me, you don't want any errors made on the death certificate and have to repeat the process again. Been there...
Life continues on, almost without skipping a beat. I always find that part a little odd.
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I'm sorry Gigi. I have been thinking about you and your family. Prayers for you and your family.
ReplyDeletespiffy - Thank you :)
DeleteI am so sorry. You all will continue to be in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteYou're right, it is really hard to keep moving forward, but everything around does.
My great uncle (who was more like my grandpa) passed away in 2009, on Easter. I still find it difficult to believe he won't be there waiting for me when I fly out to CA to visit relatives. I find it hard to know he won't know my kids. And yet, life has had to move on...I get some feeling of comfort knowing that as long as I can continue the lessons he taught me as a girl for my own kids, then he is still *here*. Just not physically here.
{Hugs.}
Dina - I think I recall you flying out with Rex for the funeral...? I kwym about here, but not physically. Thanks for your support.
DeleteOh Gigi--you are in my thoughts. I am so glad that your husband got that time with her. Take good care of yourself and your fam and hold each other close. Lots of love!
ReplyDeleteDanielle - I am glad for that, too. He just went thru a hero's journey. Perhaps some tough times are still ahead, but he has been courageous on the course.
DeleteHugs and prayers, Gigi. I was in that situation too when my FIL passed away two years ago. It is incredibly hard to see your significant other go through something so painful. I remember feeling so helpless that all I could do was be there, even if it was silently. I hope that your family will find peace in this soon. Take comfort in the fact that life indeed DOES move on; it is part of the healing process. Thinking of you...
ReplyDeleteAppGal - 2 years now, wow. I have learned thru this process myself. It took a lot for me to just have a seat & not try to run the show. I learned something very important in a short period of time. I hope.
DeleteOh Gigi I'm so sorry. I've been thinking of you and saying prayers for your family. I lit the candles for your MIL just last night and wished her well. It sounds like she had a peaceful journey and just as she wanted. Bless her and your family!
ReplyDeleteWhat a treasure those videos will be, that is a gift.
DaniBP - Thank you so much for sharing that with me. Mil visited Mini G & I, at least sent us a sign within 12 hours of passing. Would be curious what your philosophical mind thinks of it.
DeleteCondolences to you and yours. We lost my MIL when the boys were very small and it is sometimes still rough on my husband-but time has eased the pain. I'm glad you all had time to be together and made the most of it. My thoughts are with all of you.
ReplyDeleteJulieStyles - Seeing her for the final time was very tough, but I am definitely glad she & I were able to share the time. Thank you.
DeleteI'm so sorry for your family's loss.
ReplyDeleteThank you, KDot.
DeleteGigi,
ReplyDeleteMy most heartfelt and deepest sympathy to you and your family. You are in my thoughts.
love2shop4bags - I appreciate it!
DeleteI'm so sorry for your loss; praying for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Wendy. I think we're still in shock. We'll see how the next couple of weeks -- in particular -- unfold.
DeleteDeepest sympathy to you and your family, Gigi.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss.
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